Why is it important to know you and your partner's love language?
Knowing you and your significant other's love language is important to be able to effectively communicate love to each other and is a positive way to continue a relationship. What makes one person feel loved may not make another feel loved. Sometimes, you may assume one's love language by noticing how they show their love. This is because people often default to showing love with their own love language, since it is familiar to them.
What are the five love languages?
1- Words of Affirmation
2- Quality Time
3- Gift Giving/Receiving
4- Acts of Service
5- Physical Touch
Words of Affirmation
Words of Affirmation is about expressing affection through spoken words, praise or appreciation. When this is someone's primary love language, they enjoy kind words and encouragement. They also enjoy things like uplifting quotes, love notes, and cute text messages. You can make your partners day by complimenting them or pointing out what they do well.
Tell them why you're grateful for them
Tell them what you appreciate about them
Send them cute good morning or goodnight texts
Affirm something that they did for you
Tell them that you love them and miss them when they are away
Quality Time is when someone gives someone else their undivided attention. This means putting down the cell phone, making eye contact, and actively listening. People with this love language are looking for quality over quantity. So, when you get together, they feel the most loved when you are present and focused on them.
Stay off your phone
Have scheduled date nights
Watch a movie together
Start a new hobby together
Ask them to join you on an errand
Sit in the same room together, even if in silence
Eat breakfast or dinner together to talk about your day
For someone with this love language, gifts are a symbol of love and affection. They treasure not only the gift itself but also the time and effort the giver put into it. They do not necessarily expect large or expensive gifts, it is more about what the gift represents to them and your relationship.
Bring them flowers just because
Buy them something that they've said they've wanted for awhile
Make them a mixtape or playlist
Bring them back something from a trip that made you think of them
Give them a memento from a fun date night
Put thought into each gift, no matter how small (as long as it has a meaning)
Acts of Service
The Acts of Service love language means one feels loved and appreciated when their partner does nice things for them. Whether it is helping with the dishes or putting gas in their car, little acts of service go straight to their heart. They love when people do nice things for them and often can be found doing nice things for others.
Make them breakfast in bed
Run to the grocery store for them
Do a chore they've been dreading
Wash and fold the laundry
Clean up your shared space
Make their coffee for them in the morning
Help them with something without being asked
This love language makes one feel loved through physical affection. They like it when their partner shows them attention in some way like holding their hand, touching their arm, or giving them a massage at the end of the day. Additionally, their idea of a perfect date might include cuddling on the couch with a glass of wine and a good movie. They simply want to be close to their partners physically.
Give them a hug and/or kiss just because
When sitting by one another, be sure to hold their hand
Scratch their hair scratches or back
Give them lots of cuddling time
Kiss them hello and goodbye
Be intimate with one another
If you’re wanting to learn more about love languages or are curious as to which language is yours, we recommend checking out https://www.5lovelanguages.com/ and taking their love language quiz.